Sexuality is fluid and with this movement, comes ways to describe the way in which people feel. One of the ways you can describe sexuality is heteroflexible. The term heteroflexibility fits within the LGBTQIA+ definitions of sexuality, but we’re here to explain it and its intricacies. Does it apply to you? Let’s find out.
What Is Heteroflexibility?
The notion of heteroflexibility has been coined as recently as the early 2000s but, the ideas surrounding it go further back than this. Being heteroflexible means that you are mostly heterosexual but also have minimal homosexual tendencies. Usually, when homosexual attraction occurs, it is not due to a person’s gender but simply who they are. If this applies to you, you may be heteroflexible, but let’s explore this further.
Are You Heteroflexible?
There isn’t a heteroflexibility test that determines your orientation, but there are questions you can ask yourself. It’s important to remember that while some of these may apply to you now, they could change in the future. Answering these questions won’t be straightforward but may help you reach a conclusion. Here are some things to consider:
- Who are you attracted to?
- Of these, who are you most attracted to?
- Have you felt an attraction to people of your own gender?
- Would you like to experiment with people of your gender?
- Do you feel like not experimenting would be missing out?
- Without notions, labels or definitions – who would you be attracted to?
The answers to these questions are a way to understand heteroflexibility and get you thinking about which aspects may apply to you.
The heteroflexible flag has been made to represent the variation between orientation. The flag consists of six white to black, gradient stripes with a multicoloured stripe down the middle. It represents the ‘mostly straight’ aspect with grey and the multicoloured nature of the LGBT+ community.
The monochrome stripes represent the Kinsey Scale. The premise of this scale is that heterosexuality and homosexuality are not as black and white as being one or the other. Rather, they fall into variations that can be more or less prevalent. The scale represents 6 lines which refer to the scale on which a person may identify as heterosexual, homosexual or in between.
Comparatively, the multicoloured LGBT+ flag represents all of the colours of the rainbow. The inclusion of all the colours attempts to represent all orientations and sexualities. The diversity here comes from including every colour of the rainbow, showing each aspect of an individuals sexuality. The combination of the black, white and grey stripes with the narrow strip of colour represents heteroflexibility within the creation of the heteroflexible flag.
Heteroflexible vs Bisexual
There is much debate about the notions between being heteroflexible and bisexual. The terms have similarities, bisexuality meaning you are not attracted to exclusively one gender, which can range from two to many. By comparison, heteroflexibility means you are ‘mostly straight’ but can be attracted to your own gender. This is where the difference lies.
Let’s delve a little deeper. Both identities coexist, yet their distinction comes from individual experiences and feelings. Labels exist for individuals to find a place that feels most natural. This means that depending on personal experience, you may fit into one or another, or maybe even both.
Being both heteroflexible and bisexual is possible, and a definition that many individuals choose. Labels are what you make them, allow you to find a community and feel a sense of belonging. Wherever you feel comfortable is the right place to be.
Along with the debate between bisexuality and heteroflexibility, comes being homoflexible. This orientation is similar to heteroflexibility, but of course, has differences. Homosexuality is characterized by having an attraction to individuals of the same gender as you. Therefore, homoflexibility means being mostly attracted to your own gender and occasionally being attracted to the opposite gender.
The criteria to assess homoflexibility is similar to the questions we previously explored. However, much like there isn’t a heteroflexibility test, there isn’t a homoflexible one either. Identifying as homoflexible, you can also identify as bisexual and heteroflexible at the same time. The terms can be used together but also separately, to describe how you truly feel. The most important thing to remember is that your experience is truly your own. Defining it can only be done by you if that’s what you choose to do.
If you’ve read this and are still not quite sure if it fits, that is totally ok! There are so many ways in which you may fit into the LGBT+ community and here at enamoree, we aim to cover as much of it as possible. Check out our LGBT+ page for more information and advice.