The sexiest dates in NYC to spice things up

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The sexiest dates in NYC to spice things up

While some of us are content with dinner and drinks at a fancy restaurant, others like to heat things up a little bit when date night comes around. So if you’re a kinky couple who like to make the most of erotic NYC nightlife, we’ve got a list of the sexiest dates to go on – in and around the city. 

Anyone who’s explored NYC after dark will know this city not only never sleeps, but it comes alive once the sun goes down. Hot things to do in NYC are plentiful if you know where to look – and come with the right codeword. 

So if you’re getting sweaty at just the thought of erotic new york, let’s take a closer look at sexiest dates in NYC, from burlesque bars to drag shows to swanky cocktail bars.

Our Criteria

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A romantic night out in New York can look different for every couple. For some, it’s all about looking for hot things to do in NYC – we all have needs and desires when it comes to spicing up our relationships. But while some of us love surprises and spontaneity, others like to purposefully fan the flames to keep the spark alive. 

No matter your reason for seeking the sexisest dates in NYC, we’ll outline each option’s biggest draws. The criteria we’ve used for this post is as follows:



Heat

How sexual is it? What’s the erotic spice level? 

Romance

How suitable is it for a romantic night out?

Uniqueness

Is it a must-try, once-in-a-lifetime kind of experience?



Customer Reviews

Average ratings based on Google and TripAdvisor

Kinky things to do in NYC

1.Boobie Trap

6/10

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Where is it? Bushwick, NYC

Let’s start with something you might even consider vanilla compared to others coming up later on this list: Bushwick’s Boobie Trap bar. From the outside it might look like your typical dive bar, but inside it’s got a kinky side that it truly loves to show off. 

As soon as you walk in, your eyes are drawn to the naked mannequin pint-pourer and the bar lined with vintage edition Playboys. Everything here oozes 80s retro sleaze – meaning it’s tasteless in all the right places. So if you’re up for a casual drink and some punk disorderly, order yourself a beer, grab some Vietnamese  food, and settle in with a game of Monopoly…

Basically, if you like Budweiser, board games, and boobs, you’ll love this place.

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2.Tantra Lounge

7/10

Enamoree Score

Where is it? Astoria, NYC

Next on our list of the sexiest dates NYC is something a little more upmarket and sophisticated – and it also turns the heat up a little too. By day, Tantra Lounge is a renowned Latin/Asian restaurant, but by night they turn the lights down and transform the space into a chic but sweaty cocktail bar. 

Everyone gets dressed in their flirtiest outfits to come here – whether single and looking for a date or eager to get down and dirty with their partner on the dance floor – rotating resident DJ makes sure there’s the perfect soundtracking. The vibes here are sensual too, with dimly-lit lanterns dotted around and regular belly dancers providing entertainment.

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3.Pumps

9/10

Enamoree Score

Where is it? East Williamsburg, NYC

Pumps may not be the most romantic date idea on this list, but it sure is sexy. Some would say it’s the best of what erotic NYC nightlife has to offer – just as long as you’re up for some strip club fun.

But it’s not your usual strip club – instead of being full of creepy older men, it tends to draw in a younger, fun-loving crowd. With its quirky hipster vibes, bikini-clad beauties, and plenty of cheap beer on tap, this is a surprisingly fun (and inexpensive) night out for down-to-earth couples.

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4. Madame X

8/10

Enamoree Score

Where is it? Soho, NYC

Known to some as the sexiest bar in the whole of New York, we couldn’t list the sexiest dates in NYC without mentioning Madame X. As a swanky boudoir-themed cocktail bar, you can rely on this place to get you hot, bothered, and in the mood to ditch the plans and head home to the bedroom instead.

But try to resist the temptation, because Madame X actually makes a fantastic date night out. The DJ pumps smooth beats ’til the early hours and a whole host of different performers take to the stage for NSFW-style entertainment: including burlesque dancers and drag queens. But this isn’t a down-and-dirty type of place, everything here is dripping in glitzy sexuality like the velvet sofas and the extensive list of fine wines. 



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5. Paddles

5/10

Enamoree Score

Where is it? Chelsea, NYC

Are you a gay couple looking for some truly kinky things to do in NYC? Look no further than Paddles, a self-proclaimed ‘friendly S&M club’.  The provocative nature of this place probably won’t be for everyone, but if you’re a couple looking to dip your toes in S&M (whips, chains, spanking, etc) then this is a good way to get you warmed up with fellow minded LGBTQ+ people. 

Sex acts are forbidden, but anything else safe and consensual goes – so come open-mined and ready to explore an adventurous and seductive side of your relationship. Supplies, equipment, and fixtures are readily available.

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6. The Museum of Sex

9/10

Enamoree Score

Where is it? Fifth Avenue, NYC

Lastly, we have something a little tamer on our list of the sexiest dates in NYC…a trip to the New York Museum of Sex. Contrary to belief, it’s not a cheesy, sleazy sex-fest – but actually home to all sorts of inspiring and educational exhibitions that’ll probably teach you a thing or two about the significance of human sexuality. 

Be sure to check out their Aphrodisiac Bar too. We think a bottle of champagne and a plate of oysters would suit the mood just nicely. Or being just a three-minute walk from Madison Square means there are plenty of bars and restaurants in the area if you’re feeling peckish. A bite to eat may well be needed after your heated tour of all things risqué. 

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Sexiest dates in NYC: Explore the city lights

Here at enamoree, we’re all about being open-minded to the joys, wonders, and sensuality of erotic New York. We think there’s something for everyone on this list – whether you’re looking for a casual night-out drinking beer in a local dive bar or you’re after a night of top-end burlesque entertainment. 

Hot things to do in NYC are lurking in the deepest and darkest places of the city’s downtown nightlife, so feel free to explore your erotic side when you’re feeling kinky. 

In the meantime, if you’ve ever been to any of the venues on this list, let us know in the comments! 

We’d love to hear about your experience. 

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